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Hiya, newbie here...
I was bullied severely for a major portion of my life. My question to those who share my experience is this...

Does anyone know the best way to develop assertiveness? What are some tried-and-true methods of helping myself? I have looked into assertiveness classes around here, and to my dismay have not been able to find any near me. Ideas? And most importantly, when someone puts me down now and/or bullies me now, how do I not let it make me feel terrible about myself? I'm sure a lot of you are struggling with the same issues yourself, but I thought if anyone had any ideas/thoughts that have worked for them, they would be extremely helpful.

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Bullying affected me greatly in life. The memories still haunt me to this day in fact. I have been beat up for as long as I can remember and it made me a human wreck later on in life. I think I am a very ugly person and I think that no one deserves to be with me... People keep on telling me to move on and forget what happend. I can't though, I try and try and I can't.....
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Hi... I'm not sure if you consider my experience valid. I have a good amount of experience of being /the bully/ and the victim. I guess, it doesn't really count too much because I was 5 or 6 when I was a bully, but I wonder if anyone stops to consider why bullies act the way they do. I'm not entirely sure that people care or want to consider the other side because they feel they're the victim, but most bullies will put down other people because they need an excuse to feel better about themselves. (I remember, I wanted to prove to the world that girls were better than boys). It's not an excuse... no. It's not really a good excuse, but if you stop letting them get their thrills, then they're going to leave you alone. You might ask me how I would know what it's like. I guess you could call my victim experience teasing, but I never really took it to heart because I had other things I had to worry about. Gradually, after seeing I didn't really care, they stopped. There are still people who still enjoy teasing me and startling me when I walk down the halls, but honestly... they laugh for about 2 minutes and when they see I don't really react they don't think it's that fun anymore.

It's hard to get around bullying around work, but if you don't let them get to you, they're going to stop because you cease to react.
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First, I would like to apologize for disabling comments. The reason is that this banner links back to the entry where this banner originated, and there is a long essay there about my views on corporal punishment and child abuse, and I'd like to keep all discussion, comments, and questions in one place. Please understand that I do NOT consider corporal punishment and child abuse equivalent. But you can read about that in my journal, and comment there, too.

The main message I am spreading is this: Domestic violence goes on far too much unchecked. "Corporal punishment", quite often (although not always, obviously), are simply words used to disguise domestic violence. Please. Let's put a stop to this. The home should be a safe place. And spread the word.


     
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Hey guys,

Just wanted to let you guys know that I have been bully magnet since I was in the 3rd grade. My motto is "F*** them all, I'm going to be a hundred times richer than you anyways!" I was surfing and ontop of finding you guys I found that this new movie "Odd Girl Out" is some what relevant and they got this crazy blog too, check it out http://www.oddgirlout.tv. In any case live day by day looking for Stifler's mom, peace.

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Hey,

I'm just dropping a line to say hello. I've been bullied for most of my life. How can that happen? Well, it does. People just know who they can push; they know the ones who won't stand up for themselves.

~ Andrea Jones ~

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Here's a shout out to all my homies who have put up with the same thing. But here is something to think about, 1) are we the ones who contribute to the bullying in some way? 2) do we get angry first in a non-constructive way?

unless I've fallen into the whole, its my fault thing, I don't go to bed early until my brain shuts down from exhaustion, I am posting to find out if any of you would like to discuss the physiological side-effects of enduring emotional and physical trauma. 1) have any of you had to deal with the psychiactric establishment? 2) received diagnosis of depression/anxiety or one or the other? 3) are you flat out bipolar or have received the diagnosis of bipolar but not PSTSD? 4) are you on any type of meddies? 5) do you feel your shrink takes your feelings seriously or are we too jaded as a society to recognize bullying as a threat to physical well-being?

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Hey there y'all. Just wanted to drop a line and introduce myself. My name is Jesse and I'm 27 years old. Most of the info. that's relevant to this community can be found in my personal journal & info. page.
Throughout this year I've been working with a group of high school students on a theatre piece that addresses bullying. It's very satisfying to be able to turn my personal experience into something enlightening and positive.
I guess that's it. Do check out my LJ and info page though. I hope I can be a resource for this community as an older person who went through severe bullying, lived to tell the tale, and is thriving anyway.
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