My nephew is a sweet kid, 16 years old, and a proverbial heart of gold. He loves the Rocky movies, and walks around the house in a Hef-life silk robe. He's a character. He's ADHD and in learning support. He bears a striking resemblance to Screech
from "Saved By The Bell". And he's been constantly bullied by a kid at school that bears a striking resemblance to
former world heavyweight boxing champion, Mike Tyson. I live 200 miles away, or I probably would have resolved things myself and gotten a jail sentence for my troubles. My sister, a notch more rational than I, has been in contact with the principal and assorted ass-clown administrators. At one point she was told that "Tyson" was being suspended. And then they decided not to because A.) Tyson denied any wrongdoing, and B.) they had no "authoritative" witnesses. Basically, Tyson's word against Screech's. Personally, I think it's a case of reverse discrimination, but I feel racist even saying that. But I can't help but feel that if it was a case of Hulk Hogan bullying Steve Erkel, the Rainbow Coalition would be camping out on the high school's lawn.
Does anyone know of any resources? Any advocacy groups she could contact? It seems like this instance of bullying is being trivialized but if a student were to bring a nail file to school, the zero tolerance policy would suddenly kick in.
Any advice? Please?
I am an Australian and sadly I cannot help you with resources.... but I wish I could, I really do. I am 53 and as I was bullied at school from 5 years old until I left school at 18.... and that was a fair while ago. I was also bullied out of my last 2 Nursing jobs..... I can tell you Bullying has been around for decades and from all I have heard..... it's even more violent now!
I feel for your nephew and I really hope someone helps you and your nephew. Sadly I think most people bury their heads in the sand when bullying is mentioned, they laugh and tell you..... "Oh it's just a phase! They'll grow out of it!" I can tell you that child bullies grow into adult bullies and it gets worse.
The situation you describe is so typical..... they would rather listen to the bullies and bury the topic. When I was bullied out of my last job.... my union told me that as I had no witnesses...... they couldn't help me! It's totally sick and unless society takes a stand this plague called bullying will go on and on! I have battled since May 2004 to get help..... so far no luck! I have lost a lot of faith in society. I have Multiple Sclerosis now, I haven't the strength to fight. Can I urge you to challenge these committees.... write to the newspapers, pester people if you have to. Be angry.... the situation stinks.
Mike Tyson is a coward and a thug..... and his look-a-like must be as well..... Your nephew is lucky to have an uncle like you...... I applaud you sir. Good Luck!
Thank you. It is, indeed, a frustrating situation. The irony is, if my nephew were to fight back and take a poke at this kid, I've no doubt he would get suspended. (Or hospitalized.)
I've thought of contacting the media. In the age of the internet, it would take me an hour to get a good campaign going. Unfortunately, my sister is a little hesitant to take things that far. For now.
On January 28th, 2007 10:54 pm (UTC), (Anonymous) commented:
I don't know of any groups or anything, but I have to say that my experience is that race is not an issue. If the school's administration is such that they're the sort to deny anything is going on, then they'll deny anything is going on, regardless of the races of those involved - I was bullied through elementary and high school by many kids and a teacher, all of whom were of the same race as me. The school denied anything was going on.
As a result of that, at age nineteen, I made my first true friend in eleven years. I had to move away from the area to do that.
People in administration have a vested interest in maintaining the appearance that all is hunky-dory. Given a choice between punishing the wrong-doer and shutting up the person who speaks against it, they'll generally shut up the person who speaks against it. Punishing the wrong-doer would mean actually admitting something went wrong on their watch, and they can't have that, now, can they?
I suggest that if it is very bad, he be home-schooled. Let me tell you, by the time a year of it had passed, I would have done all the extra work of home-schooling gladly to avoid having to return to the environment. It was ten years after that before I graduated and immediately went to a school that I knew nobody from my old school in. Even when I visit my parents, I don't go into the town very much - not because I'm afraid of them anymore, but rather because I don't trust myself around them. There's a lot of hurt, anger and hatred from those years bottled up in me, and I won't go around them until I can trust myself not to lose it and do something I'd regret - if only because a criminal record would ruin my life.
If there's anything more important than having a good temper, it's the wisdom to know you don't have a good temper. Good call on avoiding the assholes. It sounds like you've grown into a good person (probably were one all along) and they certainly don't deserve to be around you.
Thanks for reading my words, and sharing yours.